Breaking the Boundaries of Fashion
Have you ever had that horrible dream where you walk into a party and you and the girl to your right are wearing the exact same dress? Let’s take that further and turn it into a “Who wore it best?” competition. Cruel, I know. Seriously though, we’ve all been there, we’ve all seen 2 girls wearing the exact same dress, one radiating and the other just existing. Why does that happen? How is it that the same piece of clothing can look totally different on 2 different people?
Well, it turns out fashion doesn’t exist in a vacuum. Fashion doesn’t just exist in clothes. It’s a state of mind, the way you carry yourself through life, your thoughts, attitude, energy. It’s expressed in everything you do but very few actually see it that way.
We live in a highly exhibitionist world. The world of fashion is ladled with messages of “look at me, look at me” and “buy me, buy me”. You have to carry a thousand dollar bag, or wear a certain type of dress or Louboutin shoes to impress. These days, as Diane Von Furstenberg puts it, “The world is completely product polluted, too much everything, in every colour, in every price,” so what would you bring to the table that’s different?
I used to be a follower of trends for many, many years. I was always shopping the latest collections until one day, I stood in front of my closet and didn’t want to wear any of it. None of it looked good anymore. None of it felt like me anymore. When that happens, it’s time to reevaluate. What makes you, you? Is it the clothes you spend hours each week shopping for online? Or is it the mind and body that you’ve been taking for granted? What if fashion wasn’t about the clothes you wear but rather the skin you’re in and the body that carries us through life? How would that change the game?
I’m here to tell you, it’s never actually been about the clothes you put on. It’s about how you feel in the clothes and the energy you bring forward. If you start with the source which is you, not the clothes, then it’s a very different story you’ll be telling. What is the story you choose to tell?
You can slip into the simplest black dress and look like a million dollars.
Here’s my story:
I haven’t always been good to myself. I used to live a sedentary life, sitting at a desk for 10 hours a day and walking only to the car and back. Sitting on a couch at home eating chips and salsa was the regular. Until I realised that this lifestyle wasn’t a choice but the unfortunate side effect of not following my body’s instinct: it’s natural need to keep moving. In staying still, I drained my body of its energy and cut it at the source.
So I started to listen to my body. I went to boxing, spinning, barre, yoga; trying everything under the sun to figure out what it is my body wanted. With every workout, my body craved it more. It was finally being heard. The way I saw exercise started to change. Instead of seeing it as a burden, it was a celebration of what I can do, how far I can push myself. Eventually I found a workout that I love – barre, I’m looking at you – and I stuck to it.
Finding a workout you love helps you start to see your body as a source of fun. Just like when we were kids, running around the playground, riding bicycles, jumping on trampolines. That shouldn’t change because we’re older. Moving is fun, exercise is fun! You just need to find what is fun for you.
Your body is made to move. Follow that instinct, that urge to walk, to run, to dance, to jump. Your body wants to be as fit and strong and beautiful as you want to be. The more you exercise, the stronger you become, physically and mentally. Seeing your body change through exercise brings a feeling of accomplishment that makes you feel good about your body and yourself. Confidence will radiate from the inside out, and accentuate your fashion statement into a different realm. So you can slip into the simplest black dress and look like a million dollars. A powerful look starts with a powerful mindset, a beautiful look starts with a beautiful mindset.
Your body is the source. It’s the vessel of your life. It’s with you through good times and bad. It’s our duty to be good to it and nourish it. When you’re good to it, it’s good to you. Your mindset changes, your energy shifts, you become radiant, confident. So here’s your chance to design your life around your body. How would you build it?