Goodbye baggage ... Hello life !!
Who needs baggage anyway?!
Going through life lugging all your past experiences and carefully molded judgements about how things should be is a very heavy burden for anyone to carry.
In my case, I felt the true weight of all my mental dispositions as soon as I crossed into my 30s. It’s like I magically adopted a whole new set of worries, responsibilities and added pressures.
“If I don’t get my s*@t together now, it will never happen!” I told myself in a panic. As I pushed against the onslaught of social expectations, I felt like I was carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders.
It only recently dawned on me that this was all very much a self-inflicted and I was the only one who could give myself permission to let it go. So I decided to put down my emotional baggage on the floor, walk away and be done with it.
If I don’t get my s*@t together now... it will never happen !
Here are the things that I found most helpful along my journey. It’s time to start the next phase of your life with a new liberated sense of self and lighter perspective.
Get good quality sleep! Have you ever heard of a little saying that goes, “there will be enough sleeping in the grave”? Well I did…and during my university days to make matters worse. I adopted Benjamin Franklin’s words as my motto throughout my undergraduate years. Sleeping became the antithesis of cool and its importance was completely lost on me. But I learnt never underestimate the power of sleep. Regulating my sleeping habits, finding out the minimum hours I need and making sure that both my mind and my body are getting their required rest made, by far, the biggest difference in my life.
Monitor your thoughts: This is a very difficult one to master. But you’d be shocked at what you have gotten into the habit of automatically thinking and the random things you go about telling yourself throughout the day. Meditation and positive affirmations are examples of different methods used to monitor your thoughts, but strongly believe that best way to gauge what goes on in your mind is through your emotions. Pay attention to them and intently create new and empowering patterns.
Identify your vices: Be honest with yourself. Sit down and list them one by one. Identifying them is always the first step to releasing them. Get clear on what they are, how they are weighing you down and why you are still holding on to them. Only then can you assess whether it’s worth keeping them in your life.
Unclutter – First mentally and then physically: Now that you are more in tune with your thought patterns and vices, you can start discarding all the unnecessary ones and simplify your outlook on life. Decluttering your physical environment goes hand in hand with this step, whether it’s your home or your office. I’m not recommending that you become a green minimalist. But we have a tendency to hold on to things for sentimental value, or “just in case”, which usually end up being good for nothing but collecting dust. Leave room for creativity to enter your life by letting go of things that no longer serve you.
Embrace your temple: By temple, I mean your body, and by body, I mean your physical health as well as your personal judgments about your figure. Your mental mind frame does not exist in a vacuum. It is directly affected by how you physically feel, which in turn affects your self-image. Put your inner critic to rest and instead embrace activities that get you on friendly terms with your body. It could be as simple as going for a massage, dancing or experimenting with different fashion styles just for the fun of it.
Make a self promise: Yes. Keeping a promise that you made to yourself with yourself is just as important as the ones you made with other people. Yet, we tend to hold ourselves less accountable for them – hint, the number of new year resolutions that banished by the time February kicked in. Making a promise to yourself and holding it in high regard increases your level of awareness, self-belief and overall happiness. Replace old baggage with new habits that inspire you. One simple promise a month is all it takes. You’ll find that everything else naturally falls into place as you do this and the load just keeps getting lighter.